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     Kola Moderator Username: Kola Post Number: 833 Registered: 02-2005 Rating: |
Our very own Yvette has been awarded a University of Minnesota dissertation fellowship for next year and now can stop practicing her "Well, it was an honor just to have been nominated" speech. Congratulations. I love you, I'm proud of you. I admire you SO MUCH. You're a helluva woman, girl. | ||
| jackie Unregistered guest Rating: N/A |
Congrats Yvette ! | ||
| Slow Poke Unregistered guest Rating: N/A |
Way ta go Yvette. | ||
| Cynnique Unregistered guest Rating: N/A |
You go, girl! | ||
| Yvettep "Cyniquian" Level Poster Username: Yvettep Post Number: 263 Registered: 01-2005 Rating: N/A |
Thanks so much, everybody! Now I'm off to my department to see my name and award posted on the window of the main office. (Small pleasures...) | ||
| Sisg Unregistered guest Rating: N/A |
Congratulations Yvette! | ||
| Jmho "Cyniquian" Level Poster Username: Jmho Post Number: 132 Registered: 03-2004 Rating: N/A |
To join the chorus ... congratulations Yvette. | ||
| Chrishayden "Cyniquian" Level Poster Username: Chrishayden Post Number: 1131 Registered: 03-2004 Rating: N/A |
Congratulations--but what does this mean? | ||
| Nadine Holden Unregistered guest Rating: N/A |
You go Miss Yvette! | ||
| Slow Poke Unregistered guest Rating: N/A |
Good going, YvetteP. As Chris asked, what does this mean, though? | ||
| Yvettep "Cyniquian" Level Poster Username: Yvettep Post Number: 265 Registered: 01-2005 Rating: |
Thanks, all, for the congrats. I've heard of academic fellowships: "Too little money to live on; Too much money to turn down." This isn't quite as relevant for me as I will be continuing to (knocknocknock on wood) live off of my husband! Seriously, though, each department in the university was given the chance to nominate one PhD student for these fellowships. I submitted a buncha stuff--the usual, like letters of recommendation and transcripts but also a summary of my research plan for my dissertation. Receiving one of these means I will get some money over the year. The idea is that fellows will be able to dedicate their whole time to completion of the dissertation. No teaching or other work is involved, and it also is not something that needs to be paid back. (However, it is taxed.) But more than that it's the prestige of having been awarded one...being able to put that down on my resume, bring it up in interviews, etc. Particularly helpful for me in this process has been the clarity I gained in trying to explain my project in such a way that a broad range of profs in many fields could see the importance of it. (A side benefit was seeing which folks in the department are truly supportive of me and which ones...showed their true selves!) | ||
| Mahoganyanais "Cyniquian" Level Poster Username: Mahoganyanais Post Number: 399 Registered: 01-2005 Rating: N/A |
Well, once again, MUCHOS KUDOS, sis! | ||
| Cynnique Unregistered guest Rating: N/A |
What is the subject of your dissertation??? | ||
| Chrishayden "Cyniquian" Level Poster Username: Chrishayden Post Number: 1135 Registered: 03-2004 Rating: N/A |
Yvette: Now I see. Congratulations again and resist the temptation to buy that new hog and just use it to write the dissertation. | ||
| Abm "Cyniquian" Level Poster Username: Abm Post Number: 2670 Registered: 04-2004 Rating: N/A |
 Big ups, ‘Vette! Knock their eggheaded socks off, kid. Who dat say brains and booty don’t go together? | ||
| Libralind2 Veteran Poster Username: Libralind2 Post Number: 74 Registered: 09-2004 Rating: N/A |
Excellent Yvette !! LiLi | ||
| Yvettep "Cyniquian" Level Poster Username: Yvettep Post Number: 268 Registered: 01-2005 Rating: N/A |
Cynique: For my dissertation I am analyzing interviews of adoptive parents for references they make to their relationships and connections to their adolescent children and their children's birthparents. I'm particularly interested in ways that they do or do not invoke genetics in their narratives. I'll then try to related these themes to these parents' family structure--such as the presence of biological and/or other adopted children in the family, and whether or not they have an open adoption that includes ongoing contact with their kids' birth families. (If you were just asking to be polite, big mistake! I could talk for another five posts about my research-LOL) | ||
| Abm "Cyniquian" Level Poster Username: Abm Post Number: 2693 Registered: 04-2004 Rating: N/A |
'Vette, Sounds like you're studying a subject that I'll be especially interested in. My wife and I having been discussing adoption. We haven't gotten to far into the process. We're mostly just talking about how we should maybe change our home/work/social schedules/systems to facilitate adoption, what 'kind' of children we're probably best prepared to adopt, etc. But one of the issues we've had concerns about have been how best to deal with the children unreconciled hereditary issues. We have friends who've adopted who seem to have struggled mightily with such and, thus, they seem ill-equipped to advise us. So I'll look forward to you sharing some of the results of your research on this and related subject. | ||
| Kola Moderator Username: Kola Post Number: 853 Registered: 02-2005 Rating: N/A |
ABM.... the only way to adopt...without hereditary issues....is to adopt an INFANT. With a newborn baby, you really are starting from scratch. But with children older than 3 or 4, you have to be prepared to WADE THROUGH mountains of psychological damage and emotional insecurity. YEARS of serious "rootedness" issues. I, personally, at your age--would get a child as young as possible. | ||
| Mahoganyanais "Cyniquian" Level Poster Username: Mahoganyanais Post Number: 411 Registered: 01-2005 Rating: N/A |
ABM, as an adoptive parent who also has a biological child, I'd be happy to share my experiences--the good, the bad, and the ugly--with you and the Mrs. Best to you, whatever you decide. | ||
| Abm "Cyniquian" Level Poster Username: Abm Post Number: 2696 Registered: 04-2004 Rating: N/A |
Kola, To some degree I concur, but not totally. I think there are spirital 'issues' that are passed pre-natal. And no matter how much you do/care for the child, there's going to be 'something'...there...('ghosts') that you may have to reckon with. Also, we are adopting, in part, to help remedy social ills. So we do feel partly compelled to adopt an older child, especially since they're less likely to be adopted. Of course, though, that's risky. Thus our deliberation. | ||
| Abm "Cyniquian" Level Poster Username: Abm Post Number: 2697 Registered: 04-2004 Rating: N/A |
Mah, Oh...Thanks. Sorry. Somehow I missed that aspect of your background. I would most certainly appreciate your sharing any info you can provide. | ||
| Yvettep "Cyniquian" Level Poster Username: Yvettep Post Number: 273 Registered: 01-2005 Rating: N/A |
ABM, Mahogany failed to sufficiently toot--She has some excellent essays on her adoptive parenting experience on Literary Mamas... | ||
| Kola Moderator Username: Kola Post Number: 855 Registered: 02-2005 Rating: N/A |
ABM, I support your ideals 100% I was very old when my parents adopted me----and------I was a basket case. But they still feel that the experience was worthwhile and invaluable. LOVE is really the best tool at your disposal. And it (along with "patience" and "time") really can overcome MOST pathologies. I wish you and DESTINED all the best on this, because it takes brave, giving spirits to endeavor in this way. _____ AND..."all" infants are Born with the spiritual animus you described, whether they're yours or somebody else's. LOOK at the huge number of kids who go around saying they "feel adopted" from about age 12 to 17. Look at how kids rebel against their own natural parents--claiming they don't belong. | ||
| Mahoganyanais "Cyniquian" Level Poster Username: Mahoganyanais Post Number: 412 Registered: 01-2005 Rating: N/A |
Vette: ABM, Mahogany failed to sufficiently toot--She has some excellent essays on her adoptive parenting experience on Literary Mamas... Mah: Oh, golly, Beav! You done went and outted me... But seriously, yeah, that's the crux of my LM column, The Girl is Mine. Sometimes I write broader, though. Like my next column will be about the divorce (in part) and it coming so soon on the heels of the adoption, and the fallout from all of that. | ||
| Abm "Cyniquian" Level Poster Username: Abm Post Number: 2702 Registered: 04-2004 Rating: N/A |
Mah, You mind posting links to some of your articles about adoption? | ||
| Mahoganyanais "Cyniquian" Level Poster Username: Mahoganyanais Post Number: 414 Registered: 01-2005 Rating: N/A |
http://www.literarymama.com/columns/thegirlismine/ ABM, that will take you to my current column. Links to past columns are listed to the left of the current, in most-recent-first order. | ||
| Kola Moderator Username: Kola Post Number: 857 Registered: 02-2005 Rating: N/A |
VERY....VERY GOOD column Mahogany. That was inventive. | ||
| Yvettep "Cyniquian" Level Poster Username: Yvettep Post Number: 274 Registered: 01-2005 Rating: N/A |
You done went and outted me Sorry, Mah. As a real-name user on discussion boards I sometimes forget about such courtesies. But didn't you already post stuff here about your LM work? I thought that's where I found the site. Anyway, I look forward to your upcoming column--The issue of adoption and divorce is a very interesting and not much talked about one. | ||
| Abm "Cyniquian" Level Poster Username: Abm Post Number: 2704 Registered: 04-2004 Rating: N/A |
Mah, Thanks! Very clever! And funny! HAHA! | ||
| Mahoganyanais "Cyniquian" Level Poster Username: Mahoganyanais Post Number: 415 Registered: 01-2005 Rating: N/A |
Thanks, Kola and ABM. Vette, girl, I was TEASING. I have posted my stuff here, including links, from day one when I introduced myself. | ||
| Yvettep "Cyniquian" Level Poster Username: Yvettep Post Number: 277 Registered: 01-2005 Rating: N/A |
*whew* | ||
| Abm "Cyniquian" Level Poster Username: Abm Post Number: 2707 Registered: 04-2004 Rating: N/A |
Yeah 'Vette. Mah's pretty much showed all her STUFF here...that's partly why I keep...coming...here. Hehe! | ||
| Mahoganyanais "Cyniquian" Level Poster Username: Mahoganyanais Post Number: 417 Registered: 01-2005 Rating: N/A |
ABM... Wander BACK into your own yard, little doggie. Scoot now. G'wan witcha now boi! | ||
| Abm "Cyniquian" Level Poster Username: Abm Post Number: 2712 Registered: 04-2004 Rating: N/A |
<<sniffingscratching&licking>> | ||
| Mahoganyanais "Cyniquian" Level Poster Username: Mahoganyanais Post Number: 419 Registered: 01-2005 Rating: N/A |
Don't make me take off my houseshoe... | ||
| Abm "Cyniquian" Level Poster Username: Abm Post Number: 2713 Registered: 04-2004 Rating: N/A |
There you go, stripteasin'...again. You just can't make those Yale chicks keep their clothes on to sake their lives. | ||
| Yvettep "Cyniquian" Level Poster Username: Yvettep Post Number: 280 Registered: 01-2005 Rating: N/A |
Don't make me start the "I Love It When You Call Me Big Poppa: The Life and Times of ABM" board! Now, bothayall get off my "Our very own Yvette..." thread! | ||
| Mahoganyanais "Cyniquian" Level Poster Username: Mahoganyanais Post Number: 421 Registered: 01-2005 Rating: N/A |
Vette: Now, bothayall get off my "Our very own Yvette..." thread! Mah: But Maaaaaaa...he STARTED it! **storming out of the Kool Room** | ||
| Abm "Cyniquian" Level Poster Username: Abm Post Number: 2715 Registered: 04-2004 Rating: N/A |
'Vette, Sorry. But whenever Mah gets into the picture, things have a knack for turning 'blue'. Btw: I'd prefer you term the site "Stop! Or You Gone Hurt Somebody Wit Dat!". | ||
| Mahoganyanais "Cyniquian" Level Poster Username: Mahoganyanais Post Number: 424 Registered: 01-2005 Rating: N/A |
I can think of two things that are going to turn blue in the Stepney household real soon... [Sorry, Vette! I'm gone f'real now.] | ||
| Abm "Cyniquian" Level Poster Username: Abm Post Number: 2718 Registered: 04-2004 Rating: N/A |
Mah, Lately babe, my eyes would sooner turn blue than that other 'pair' you're alluding to. ;) ENJOY! | ||
| Kola Moderator Username: Kola Post Number: 860 Registered: 02-2005 Rating: N/A |
MAH: I can think of two things that are going to turn blue in the Stepney household real soon... KOLA: laughing my ass off! | ||
| Cynnique Unregistered guest Rating: |
In response to Cynique's query about the subject of her dissertation, Yvettep respondes: "For my dissertation I am analyzing interviews of adoptive parents for references they make to their relationships and connections to their adolescent children and their children's birthparents..." Cynique responds: That sounds like a compelling subject, a study with the possiblity of being adopted as a guideline for adoption agencies. MAH: I think your adopting a child is really a commendable act of kindness, an example of one person doing one thing to make life better for someone less fortunate. So, Kola, you really should adopt a little black girl. If Brad Pitt can express interest in adopting some orphaned African children, so can you. I'm sure the hunky, blond, blue-eyed Brad Pitt is who ABM secretly wants to emulate when he considers adopting a kid. heh-heh. | ||
| Kola Moderator Username: Kola Post Number: 872 Registered: 02-2005 Rating: N/A |
LOL Cynique there isn't an adoption agency anywhere that would let KOLA BOOF adopt a child. I'm considered an unstable, at-risk HOME, because of my "career activities". | ||
| Mahoganyanais "Cyniquian" Level Poster Username: Mahoganyanais Post Number: 440 Registered: 01-2005 Rating: N/A |
Thank you, Cynique. My babygirl was born in Chi-town. ;-) We brought her home at two weeks old. | ||
| Abm "Cyniquian" Level Poster Username: Abm Post Number: 2752 Registered: 04-2004 Rating: N/A |
Cynique, Darling, I have ZERO idea of or interest in Pitt's adoption's plans. In another life, though, I wouldn't mind tapping into Angeline Jolie. I'll give him props for scoring THAT. | ||
| Yvettep "Cyniquian" Level Poster Username: Yvettep Post Number: 295 Registered: 01-2005 Rating: N/A |
((((i swear its like passing by a serious highway accident you know its sad and someone probably is hurt or will be hurt but you just cant bear to turn your eyes away even though you might catch a glimpse of someones mangled body and you should instead keep your eyes on the road and just keep driving you just cant turn away))) | ||
| Yvettep "Cyniquian" Level Poster Username: Yvettep Post Number: 309 Registered: 01-2005 Rating: N/A |
Hey, y'all, one more thing and then I swear I'll stop yapping about myself: Just as I was experiencing all sorts of changes about my "achievements" and what not my mother sent me a box that contained my first report card. What a trip! Anyway, I posted a copy of it and wrote about it today if you want to take a look: http://blog.lib.umn.edu/archives/perry032/impossible/using_time_wisely_co.html | ||
| Kola Moderator Username: Kola Post Number: 908 Registered: 02-2005 Rating: N/A |
Hey Yvette-----This is GREAT!!! I love it. I'm so impressed with you. You really take no prisoners, sister. Keep it up and YAP all you want about yourself. I find you fascinating---and I was just thinking as you wrote that----about me, you, Beloved Mother Cynique's life story, Mahogany........we have an UNUSUALLY HIGH amount of multi-faceted, multi-talented, "thinking" and "LIVING" BLACK WOMEN at this board. It's very exciting. | ||
| Abm "Cyniquian" Level Poster Username: Abm Post Number: 2780 Registered: 04-2004 Rating: N/A |
'Vette, Clever post. The report card thing definitely bring back some memories (e.g., honor roll, certificates, ribbons, @$$kissing from teachers, making fun of the C and D students, using my grades to extorting money from aunts/grandparents, etc.). Man! Those were the days. Thanks! ("JEEZ! And I thought that I was a nerd. HEHE!!") | ||
| Yvettep "Cyniquian" Level Poster Username: Yvettep Post Number: 313 Registered: 01-2005 Rating: N/A |
Thanks Kola and ABM! It was so fun to look at all that stuff. And that report card really did help me put some things in perspective. Hey, I must really be an "Adult" now that my mother is entrusting me with all these treasures! | ||
| Abm "Cyniquian" Level Poster Username: Abm Post Number: 2797 Registered: 04-2004 Rating: N/A |
'Vette: "I must really be an "Adult" now that my mother is entrusting me with all these treasures!" ABM: Either that or she was afraid of your asking about them after she’d thrown them out with her last bit of Spring cleaning. | ||
| Yvettep "Cyniquian" Level Poster Username: Yvettep Post Number: 317 Registered: 01-2005 Rating: N/A |
ABM YOU STOP SAYING SUCH THINGS RIGHT NOW! My Momma would never throw away any of my treasures ... ###slamming my door### ... **sucking my thumb and clutching my blankey** | ||
| Abm "Cyniquian" Level Poster Username: Abm Post Number: 2806 Registered: 04-2004 Rating: N/A |
("See ['Vette's mom]. I told you better give her that dusty stuff. Glad you listened or you'd have a boohooing mess on your hands...'cause you KNOW how SHE can get.] |
