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ABM
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Username: Abm
Post Number: 2280
Registered: 04-2004
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Votes: 0 (Vote!) | | Posted on Friday, April 08, 2005 - 08:30 am: | 
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Kola,
You’ve said you refuse to have your infibulation corrected out of fealty for others who’ll never enjoy such convenience.
But might your refusal to be healed be due to more ‘selfish’ reasons than that?
Have you – as you’ve previously inferred – become addicted to enjoying the extremes of pain/pleasure during lovemaking that result from your condition?
Does having a smaller vagina serves to reduce your (relatively great physical) stature to a degree such that you can feel more vulnerable, more feminine when you are in a relationship with men who are otherwise smaller than you?
Moreover, does infibulation allows you to be what most women probably at least subconsciously desire: To be a ‘virgin’ to EVERY man they may ever love?
Lastly, having the circumference of your vagina reduced likely affords you the ability to confer a level of phallic pleasure upon men that few non-infibulated women can match. Could it be you’d rather not surrender that level of ‘power’ over men...no matter the havoc wielding such reaps upon you?
PS: Doesn’t openly advertising your infibulation in a mostly non-infibulated country/culture virtually guarantees you to be the one b*+%# that every dawg in the kennel wants to hump? (And could THAT as much as anything else be the source of a lot of female resentment of you?) |
kola@aalbc.com
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Username: Kola
Post Number: 513
Registered: 02-2005
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Votes: 0 (Vote!) | | Posted on Friday, April 08, 2005 - 11:33 am: |
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ABM SAID:
Moreover, doesn't infibulation allows you to be a ‘virgin’ to EVERY man you lay down with?
Lastly, having the circumference of your vagina reduced likely affords you the ability to confer a level of phallic pleasure upon men that few non-infibulated women can match. Could it be you’d rather not surrender that level of ‘power’ over men...no matter the havoc wielding such reaps upon you?
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That's very true. All that. However, I didn't know about such things until I was ADULT.
But as for not having it corrected when I was 12, it was simply because...I do not have a photograph of my birth mother. I have no lock of her hair, no birthday cards or letters from her.
The only thing that I have ABM, is the MARK that was MARKED on her.
This is the only link to her for me, and this is why I refused to have it corrected. I felt that correcting it would destroy my Africanness, even though---I am politically opposed to the practice.
I write about it in my upcoming autobiography, but my sister from Somalia, WARIS DIRIE has written a comprehensive book that is ALL ABOUT the hardship and evils of FGM--and she DID have herself "corrected" in N.Y. City when she married a Black American man:
 
THE BOOK:
It's called "DESERT DAWN" by Waris Dirie.
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kola@aalbc.com
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Username: Kola
Post Number: 515
Registered: 02-2005
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Votes: 0 (Vote!) | | Posted on Friday, April 08, 2005 - 12:56 pm: |
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ABM,
I recently did an interview with a popular WHITE WOMEN's web site----SEX KITTEN.NET
http://sex-kitten.net/Guest.htm
As usual, they constructed the article the way THEY WANTED TO and used photos that I didn't give them. But overall, I like the interview.
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Walter Matthews Nuggins, Jr.
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Username: Evangelist
Post Number: 7
Registered: 04-2005
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Votes: 0 (Vote!) | | Posted on Saturday, April 09, 2005 - 02:41 pm: |
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This is what brought me to the site.
Very interesting topic, because I have not heard previously from women who are afflicted this way.
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Walter Matthews Nuggins, Jr.
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Username: Evangelist
Post Number: 8
Registered: 04-2005
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Votes: 0 (Vote!) | | Posted on Saturday, April 09, 2005 - 02:42 pm: |
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I wish my name didn't have to show up with these posts.
I am registered as "EVANGELIST", I thought.
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