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Number Nine
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Votes: 0 (Vote!) | | Posted on Monday, January 19, 2004 - 08:57 pm: | 
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I think the one thing that would definitely improve relations between black men and black women would be if they stopped all this "brother", "sister" calling.
Does anyone (even just 1 person) agree with me?
I'm so sick of black men calling me "sister" and us calling them "brother".
Who wants to screw their sister?
I'd rather call my man "daddy", shit.
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Troy
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Votes: 0 (Vote!) | | Posted on Monday, January 19, 2004 - 09:08 pm: |
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Hummmm...
This is interesting. On occasion I'll call my daughter "Sister". Somtimes I refer to Black people in writing as a Brother or Sister. If I'm talking to a person, I'm friends with, I'll refer to another Black person as that "Brother" or that "Sister". I rarely directly address someone I don't know as "Sister" or "Brother".
I don't see anything wrong with it. In fact I rather like it. I view it as a term of endearment and as a form of acknowledging solidarity -- and if a person's actions are in line with this, its a beautiful thing.
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Always Lurking
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Votes: 0 (Vote!) | | Posted on Monday, January 19, 2004 - 09:25 pm: |
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LOL
Troy, the question was about Black men and Black women in the dating world.
Some black men have begun saying that they don't date black women because..."it's like dating your sister".
Some black women are proposing that we stop calling each other brother and sister.
It's only an issue really with blacks under the age of the 25, I've noticed. They're the only ones seriously thinking about dropping the tradition.
Me myself, I'm with you. I like having this kind of solidarity and it does remind the strays that we're family.
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Troy
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Votes: 0 (Vote!) | | Posted on Tuesday, January 20, 2004 - 12:25 am: |
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{smile} As Emily Latella would say "Nevermind".
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Cynique
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Votes: 0 (Vote!) | | Posted on Tuesday, January 20, 2004 - 01:10 am: |
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Looks like black folks are evolving into one big, happy, incestuous family. LOL! And speaking of black male and female relationships, the black female columnist for the Chicago Sun-Times did a Sunday piece on the subject of man-sharing in the black community, a scenario wherein black women are resigning themselves to sharing men, realizing that there just aren't enough black men to go around. A side effect of this has been that only 52 percent of black women will ever marry; the lowest figure among all ethnic groups. The author who wrote the book that inspired the column also said that this was a trend that was starting to show up among white people, for whatever reason. What next? Hip-Hop - idol worship - man sharing. Babylon looms on the horizon! F**k it, I'm movin to Middle Earth. Yes, I'll have to share my man with Arwen, but at least he returned as a King!!! |
ABM
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Votes: 0 (Vote!) | | Posted on Tuesday, January 20, 2004 - 02:46 am: |
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I agree that our calling each other Sistah/Brothah are intend to be terms of endearment, which, considering the current state of affairs/relations between Black men/women, we should try to encourage as much as we can.
But I guess if Black women en mass said NAY to the "Sistah" moniker, I could respect/honor that...though I would miss it. And I guess if you haven't enjoyed an authentic/lasting relationship with a man, such sentiment might not mean very much to you.
Often, I call my wife lil Sistah and she calls me big Brothah. We don't view that as some form of incest (4 Christ Sake!). Actually, we both understand that to mean I am responsible for her protection, that I have got her back. (And, Number Nine, there are times the wife calls me "daddy". But that is usually in...well...our more 'private' moments. <<wink!>>)
BTW, Number Nine, if one strictly interpreted your last 2 sentences, one might conclude that you might prefer to "screw"...your 'father'(?). <<yikes!>> |
Chris Hayden
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Votes: 0 (Vote!) | | Posted on Tuesday, January 20, 2004 - 11:53 am: |
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Number Nine:
I do not agree that it would change relationships for the better. I think when you take into consideration economic and soceital pressures, upbringing, psychology, etc something like calling each other brother or sister hardly registers a blip. |
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