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Snake Girl Poisonous
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Votes: 0 (Vote!) | | Posted on Thursday, June 05, 2003 - 02:58 am: | 
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An awful thing happened to me tonight that many of you might find LAUGH OUT LOUD amusing...
Thomas and I went out to dinner to celebrate the new baby.
Well...to my astonishment...this woman across the room recognized me and marched over to our table as though she couldn't believe it was me.
She walked up to me and said, "You're that bitch, Kola Boof!"
Then she hauled off and threw her glass of red wine in my face!!
As the waiters ran to our table and I held Thomas back in his seat with one arm clutching my purse against his chest
...I wiped my cheek and brow...
I licked my lips and smacked my tongue and said to the waiter, "Gee, that's delicious..I think I'll have a bottle of that."
Of course, the woman was handcuffed by police...but I refused to let them arrest her. She apologized and I forgave her.
And we had a lousy, wasted evening...which we rarely have time to just ourselves anyway.
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Chris hayden
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Kola:
Did you ever find out in particular what it was that made the woman throw wine in your face? Or was she just crazy? |
NeeCee
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Is this for real? It sounds so vivid, like a scene from a movie. But scary too. |
Cynique
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Like you, Chris, I'm also curious about this angry woman's motivation. Was she White? Black? Arab? Real? |
Snake Girl
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Hi Chris and Cynique,
It was a "mixed" woman and she seemed to be angry about my position against "Islam"..things I had said in interviews about "black men"...and also, her mother was "white".
"Sister-To-Sister" magazine has documented the situation here in California inwhich my house was picketed by the group "White Women With Voices". I went outside and cut the water hose on them and they got back on their van and left, however.
This girl last night was just someone knowledgable about my work.
As I understand it, this type of thing happens to authors all the time. Alice Walker, Gayl Jones and Gloria Naylor have all written about being threatened with or barely escaping physical violence at their book signings or other social events.
And lets please not forget that a report to the United Nations has just confirmed that a Sharia court in my homeland issued a fatwa contract for assassination against me last July--calling for me to be beheaded for the books I wrote. And lets please not forget (although you don't believe it)...that I was involved in a shoot out last year when Dragons for Jihad sent those bumbling teenagers after me.
Some people really do understand the power of the written word.
By the way...my book "Diary of a Lost Girl" just got purchased by one of Japan's largest publishers--SHUEISHA INTERNATIONAL. I just got the call this morning. So Kola's word marches on...and the wine WAS delicious.
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ABM
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Votes: 0 (Vote!) | | Posted on Friday, June 06, 2003 - 12:05 pm: |
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Glad you and your husband came out of that scene ok. Hope this to-do doesn’t discourage you from dining out. If you haven’t already, you may wanna invest in some pepper spray (or maybe even a stun gun).
It’s got to be paradoxically frightening and fulfilling that your work has struck such a persuasive, indelible cord with so many people, be the sentiment antagonistic or complimentary.
I’m not sure I agree with how you handled this incident. You should have let the "po po's" drag misthang out to street by the roots of her hair.
And maybe you should have brought assault and disturbing the peace charges against your assailant. This incident may appear to be fairly innocuous, but things like this can escalate. And your casually brushing this incident aside might make some think you to be an easy target. But if word gets out that you not going to tolerate this nonsense, maybe other would-be crazies will think twice.
Have you tried to consult with fellow author Salman Rushdie? You may recall that he too was (still is?) the target of a worldwide Islamic death summon for supposedly incorporating anti-Muslim writings in his book Satanic Verse. Perhaps, finding you to be a kindred spirit, Rushdie might be able and willing to help you to more safely and comfortably navigate thru through this insanity.
BTW: What was the make and year of wine? Would it be a good complement for prime rib, twice-baked potatoes and zucchini? |
Snake Girl
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Hi ABM,
Salman is STILL under protection of the British Government...even though the Iranian Court has claimed to have "removed" the fatwa on him. British Intelligence claims that Rushdie is still "marked".
As a person, I don't like Rushdie.
Neither does Taslima Nasrin--the other woman writer in the world with a fatwa on her head (Village Voice did a story about her that's online--I'm in the story, too). Taslima is constantly on the run from nation to nation...ducking and hiding, because you never know who will try to collect the "fatwa" (bounty money). Her books are FAR..FAR less antagonistic than mines are. Very tame in comparison. But anyway, me and Taslima can't stand Rushdie. He's a sexist, racist old fart with an ego bigger than King Kong.
Don't be surprised if my very close friend--Arab Egyptian writer Carol Chehade soon becomes the target of a fatwa as well. Carol is one of the few blond white women in the world that I love, adore and would gladly marry off to my brother. She's a REAL womanist woman and she tells the truth. She has a great command of the knowledge of "colorism" in our native Egypt (colorism being the mechanism that is used to systematically breed out the "Nilotic" stock and force those remaining into the southern part of the country)...I have always appreciated that she fights for the "dark" people of Egypt and she reminds me of my Arab (white) father. She loves black people..in that she wants them to EXIST. So this is a friend to my black babies, you understand.
Trust me, ABM. I am not an easy woman to defeat. I've got more than arms up these sleeves, daddy.
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Sssssss
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One more thing, ABM.
I often say "America is my husband now...and he is good to me".
I say that because I am very lucky to be in U.S. and to be a citizen. It is 20 times harder to rub me out than it is Rushdie or Taslima.
I am over protected and rarely allowed to leave the house. EVER. Which is why you see me socializing here on this board...I simply have no one to talk to during the day other than my kiddies. And they hate talking politics.
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ABM
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1 More thing: Good touch with the hose job of the WWV picketers. Maybe, like Evilene (Wizard of Oz), those “evil witches” will melt from a little sprinkling. |
ABM
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Kola: "[Rushdie] a sexist, racist old fart with an ego bigger than King Kong."
ABM: Then I guess you and Rushdie won’t be dining together anytime soon, huh? The only thing that smells worse than a fart is an old fart. P-UUUU!!!
Kola: "...because you never know who will try to collect the "fatwa" (bounty money)"
ABM: Who sets the fatwa? Have the powerful US or British governments formally requested that these fatwas be lifted? If so, what has been the responses?
Kola: Carol is one of the few blond white women in the world that I love, adore and would gladly marry off to my brother.
ABM: So if a non-black person agrees with and embraces your socio-political views, you have no problem them mating with blacks? Hey. Now that you are "preggers", and considering how deeply you feel about Carol, would you let her do a greasy "rub-a-dub" with Thomas during some of your conjugal downtime?
Kola: I've got more than arms up these sleeves, daddy.
ABM: Yeah. But whatahyah packin’ undahyah skirt? ((wink)) |
ABM
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Kola: I often say "America is my husband now...and he is good to me".
ABM: Now if only you could get him to leave the toilet seat down. |
Snake Girl
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ABM...you're crazy.
1) Thomas has claimed, since the day I met him, that he would never sleep with a woman who wasn't Black. Do I believe that?? NO...but so far, I have not been able to prove otherwise. Thomas has HUGE crushes on the following celebrities--Sheryl Lee Ralph, model Roshumba and singer CeCe Winans. In fact, he told me that if CeCe Winans ever showed up...he would have to leave me.
He did, however, accept an Eritrean African co-wife that I found at USC during my second pregnancy--she was YELLOW/olive colored with stick straight hair...she and I became extremely close and though she married after graduation and moved to Ohio, we're still good friends. Of course, since her husband is American, we would never disclose her co-wife days to him.
2) In my case, a Sharia court in Khartoum representing the government of Sudan found me guilty of treason, blasphemy against Islam and some other b.s. Even though I haven't been Muslim since about 10....they ruled for me to be beheaded. So this means that whatever Muslim male returns my head to the government of Sudan...he will get a great treasure in money.
Andrew Young (God bless him) was one of the investigators who turned this information over to the United Nations via a human rights organization called Freedom House (these are politicians and famous activists who dig up "documented" proof of terrorist activities). You can search Yahoo for "The World's Most Repressive Regimes 2003" and you will find the United Nations report. You will find my sentencing in the pages that deal with terrorism in Sudan.
ABM said: Yeah, but whatahyah pack'n unda yah skirt?
I SAY: LOL!! Something real good daddy. Trust me, all pain aside, it has moved mountains for me. I am not very pretty or beautiful ABM. But this
"mudd slick" has been my secret weapon that made men do my bidding. For without any formal education and without every working a 9 to 5 job in my life, this "mudd slick" has caused me to live in Palaces and be protected and become known all over the world.
Other women think I should be disgraced by that. But I am a living woman...an adventurer just like any man. He uses his tools, I use mines. As I said, I am not a "beauty" like some people claim...but I did have a killer body and some hellified "quicksand". Plus I was VERY...VERY...intelligent.
ABM: So if a non-black person agrees with and embraces your socio-political views, you have no problem them mating with blacks?
KOLA: My people come first. The tulat and the bloodberry of WE, the result of great fire--the African people--the every inch..of everything. We are BLACK.
As I told you...I lived with a white man for 5 years (and cared for him deeply, although, I aborted his baby, because I didn't want to be connected to White Americans--I felt it would be a betrayal against the American slave ancestors).
I am not against interracial mating. What I am against is the epidemic of self-hatred in America that is causing the Black Americans to be bred out of existence. This "one drop rule" you inherited from your Slave Master is total B.S. (this rule is totally against the entire African race of humans--it is the core heart of racism).
This rule allows you to be as white as Mariah Carey..but be forcibly identified as "Black". In other words, while calling yourselves proud blacks...you breed yourselves into 2nd rate imitations of your White Slave Masters--which makes them more comfortable, but truly SPITS IN THE FACE of your dead ancestors and is an unforgivable rebuke of our mother, the goddess Africa...who is your real mother that your self-hatred rejects.
THAT is what I am against. Anyone who is against my Black Babies..I am against them. Mixed race people...White women who think their genes are some saving grace--some gift that produces children better than our African babies...I'm against that.
I will raise my sons to slit the throats of any man, woman or GOD (including niggers) that so dare be against the existence and wellbeing of my people...us, the AFRICANS--the Authentic Black Man and Black Woman.
The King and the Queen who ruled this earth when rain was new.
Your ancestors, ABM....came from AFRICA. They were here when hell was in session.
So I find it abominable that so many millions of your children are willing to breed their faces, their hair and their coloring right off the planet.
It's one thing to be called a nigger, but it's quite another to start looking one. And that's what is happening over here.
The Black Americans MUST survive as themselves. Otherwise, they prove the White Slave Master right--that they're nothing at all.
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ABM
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Kola: ...you're crazy.
ABM: ...and you're chocolatey.
Kola: 1) Thomas has claimed, since the day I met him, that he would never sleep with a woman who wasn't Black. Do I believe that?? NO...but so far, I have not been able to prove otherwise. Thomas has HUGE crushes on the following celebrities--Sheryl Lee Ralph, model Roshumba and singer CeCe Winans. In fact, he told me that if CeCe Winans ever showed up...he would have to leave me.
ABM: Good girl. I know you love him, but don't believe him. Lemme tellyah sumthin: A man will toss his stick into an active volcano just so's he knows he'll stirring up something REALLY hot-n-spicy.
Kola: He did, however, accept an Eritrean African co-wife that I found at USC during my second pregnancy--she was YELLOW/olive colored with stick straight hair...she and I became extremely close and though she married after graduation and moved to Ohio, we're still good friends. Of course, since her husband is American, we would never disclose her co-wife days to him.
ABM: Ahhhh!! How sweet! Love, sex, intrigue and deception among young Africans. Ok, what if Thomas likes his Eritrean honey so much he wants to get back with her to getta lil olive-flavored "nuk-nuk" now/then? You down with that? (And if so, do you mind talking to wife and 1 or 2 of her friends I've been eyeballin'?) Or what if the hubby finds out about his wife's "cooperative" past and wants to get "even-stevens" by getting buzy with the long-n-luscious Kola? Would you g' 4 dat?
Kola: In my case, a Sharia court in Khartoum representing the government of Sudan found me guilty of treason, blasphemy against Islam and some other b.s. Even though I haven't been Muslim since about 10....they ruled for me to be beheaded. So this means that whatever Muslim male returns my head to the government of Sudan...he will get a great treasure in money.
ABM: I will pray for your safety my Sister. What can we AA's do to stop these maniacs from trying to hurt you and others living under the horror of fatwas?
Kola: I SAY: LOL!! Something real good daddy. Trust me, all pain aside, it has moved mountains for me. I am not very pretty or beautiful ABM. But this "mudd slick" has been my secret weapon that made men do my bidding. For without any formal education and without every working a 9 to 5 job in my life, this "mudd slick" has caused me to live in Palaces and be protected and become known all over the world.
Other women think I should be disgraced by that. But I am a living woman...an adventurer just like any man. He uses his tools, I use mines. As I said, I am not a "beauty" like some people claim...but I did have a killer body and some hellified "quicksand". Plus I was VERY...VERY...intelligent.
ABM: You know, there were a lot of naughty things I could do with with the "mudd slick" quip...but I won't. But your comments kinda reminds me of a line that has been credited to actress Sharon Stone: "If you have a vagina and an attitude in this town [Hollywood], then that's a lethal combination."
Hey let's be honest, many of us play the d'-n-p' game to advance our situation at stages of our lives (When I was 19 in college, there as this wrinkled middle-aged lady professor, I had gotten behind on some studying, her hubby's gun bullet chamber was spent, she had a hanking for brothahs from the inner city...well...you know what I'm saying. Then their was my bucked-tooth summer camp counselor...newly-divorced assistant dean...) So I ain't going to run you down just cause you played the game to win.
Ode to Kola: "Though of lesser might and bone, frailer than he could ever be. But his soul is now hers to own, when he dines on her p...." (<=ABM) |
Snake Girl
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Hi ABM...
You always delight me.
1) Go back and read my post about how I prepare Thomas's food. **This explains why he can not leave me.
2) I would NEVER be unfaithful to Thomas. No other man can touch me. I just enjoy flirting with Black men--especially American black men (I can't "play games" with African males, because they will...TAKE IT...if you tease)....I truly love Thomas and I am devoted to him.
3) No, Thomas cannot sleep with the co-wife once she leaves my house. If he ever slept with any woman outside my house (which would be without my permission)....I would leave him.
He bet not let me find anything out.
Although, in August, I'm bringing in a new co-wife (because of the new pregnancy), so he's been skipping around the house lately like a kid--being overly helpful and sweet.
He used to be prejudiced against my culture but now he's warming to it.
In all honesty...THomas treats me like a queen. I have never been so spoiled and adored by a single man in all my life. He is worth everything I can give him.
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ABM
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Playa Thomas is coming home to a FOINE, beautiful, long-legged, PHAT-breasted, PLUMP-a$$ed African/Black woman who is whipping up a scrumptious dinner while pregnant and bare-foot in the kitchen.
umm umm...UMMMP!!!
You ladies might not want to hear it, but that is just about the sexiest image in the world to me. |
Snake Girl
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You are so hilarious, ABM.
Did you know that Thomas only lives with us on the weekend? That's about to change.
We had been separated and I only allowed him (each night) to come home for dinner--but made him sleep at his electrical business in town (I live in the house that Thomas owns)...
...but then the boys wanted their daddy, so I let him live here on the weekends.
Next Monday, he will begin living home fulltime again.
We had broke up because he wanted me to give up my political speeches (I had been shot at) and to stop posing topless on the back of my books (his friends tease him). He also felt less of a man, because the State Department had to protect me. Thomas is a Belizian--very sexist and territorial about his "castle". He felt that I was emasculating him.
But I would not compromise my career, because I was already Kola Boof when he met me. He knew that. Anyway...we fought and were forced to separate.
This separation, however, proved that he was a good man...because although I didn't ask him for a single dime...he signed his house over to me (until the boys are 18) and paid all my bills and saw to his sons EVERY single day.
He also, ofcourse, had to eat here...because he gets physically ill if he goes more than a week without my cooking.
So beginning next Monday--the King will return to his castle permanently.
The State Department is looking after my safety. I don't really fear Jihad or the Sudanese Murhaleen. The fact that I am "BLACK" protects me from the Arab Muslims, because they don't want to
HELP me get in the papers. And especially they don't want AAs to see them murdering a "black mother".
So this protects me.
Kola
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ABM
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So you like to get the brothahs all worked up then leave them hanging with a hard a handful themselves, hey? You naughty, naughty gurl.
I like to flirt too. I like to get a rise out of women, to get them to say something, admit to reveal about themselves, maybe something a little private...& naughty.
And I LOVE to make women laugh. Seeing and hearing a woman laugh at something I have said/done is almost as satisfying to me as sex (& less messy). I guess that's why am why I am an inveterate wisecracker.
The never cheatin on my wife part, well, uh, let's just say, hmmm...uh...what time did you say it is? ((!!!))
Hey, Kola. Now that Tommy Boy is excited about getting a lil' cooperative coochie, now's the perfect time for you to get him to due some extensive yardwork, root out your plumbing, wash the walls, clean out the car(s) and garage and score you some passes to a choice LA spa.
Kola: He is worth everything I can give him.
ABM: ...so long as I can take him for everything that he is worth. |
Snake Girl
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Kola: He is worth everything I can give him.
ABM: ...so long as I can take him for everything that he is worth.
Uhhhmmmm. Well I'll say, daddy.
**Big grin**
CAUSE YOU FUNNY!!
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ABM
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Kola: You are so hilarious, ABM.
ABM: Oh dats nuthin'. Hey! Ya wanna feel what I'm keepin in my right pocket?
Kola: Did you know that Thomas only lives with us on the weekend? That's about to change.
ABM: Sounds like a good set-up to me, Ko-Bo. I've been tryna fly the chickencoop for years. But, "Just when I think I'm out, they pull me back in."
The State Department is looking after my safety. I don't really fear Jihad or the Sudanese Murhaleen. The fact that I am "BLACK" protects me from the Arab Muslims, because they don't want to HELP me get in the papers. And especially they don't want AAs to see them murdering a "black mother".
ABM: Yet you still appear quite wary about your personal safety. Is there still anything or one you fear?
But I would not compromise my career, because I was already Kola Boof when he met me. He knew that. Anyway...we fought and were forced to separate.
ABM: We gotta be what we be. But do you in anyway compromise to allay some of his concerns. How are you 2 going to resolve your differences? I know you need to be the fire-breathing, kicka$$ African Amazon and all. You sistah's often overplay the your strong-black-woman hand to your detriment. If a brothah's handling his biznaz, paying your bills, raising the yunguns and stirring up your "sauce" good-n-prahpah like, you've gotta cut'em sum slack, baby gurl, or he figures, "Who the f#$% she think she is? You'd bettah recognize I'm the 1 packin the nutsack up-&-around deeze parhts!" |
Snake Girl
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ABM, please stop calling me an "Amazon". I detest that word.
As well...as I have stated many times...I am NOT
a strong black woman.
I am a "LIVING" woman.
There is no show that a woman puts on. Either you have lived into your reality or you have not.
I have had a very unusual, complicated, daring life. I believe I represent myself well.
Thomas is spoiled and catered to quite enough. But as one of my famous sayings goes: "The meaning of life is that your deeds outlive you." There are 27 million Sudanese children who need me to be who I am. There are images of authentic black women that have not been represented to the world that need to be represented--regardless of how Non-European they are.
In many ways, my life is not my own. Thomas should be ADMITT that he admires that and is proud of it.
And I resent this greatly about black men, ABM...the insistence that any woman who has a constitution and is fully developed and secure as a human being...is a masculine trait--strong.
It makes black men look weak and stupid when they fail to recognize "competence" and "purpose" in a female. You would not disuade your "best buddy--running partner" from their work so why harness your mate with your insecurities.
Thomas is well loved and he DOES NOT live with a firebreathing, domineering kick-ass Amazon.
He lives with a loving, playful Goddess...a down to earth competent woman with high cultural ammenities and values related to the Womb. Also a woman who comes from enormous tragedy and is responsible for her people..both in Sudan and America.
My breasts are bare because...I am a "living" woman. I LIVE my life and he's welcome to share it as my King...or step.
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ABM
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Kola, you must be a mofo in bed ‘cause gurl you sure like the "tussle", gal.
Hey, hey, hey...long, fine & brown. Take it easy, Weezy. I was just funning with the "firebreathing, domineering kick-ass Amazon" talk. Didn’t mean to shake up the fizz in my Kola.
Hey baby, you handle yours the way you see fit to. But you have a tendency to get angry when others are less than agreeable of what you do. Maybe that’s how all artists should be. I don’t know. But I feel for you, gurl. The emotions behind what you say are so raw, so transparent, I wonder how long you can withstand the pressure be4 you pop a gasket.
I asked you once what could be done to help your people, but I’m not sure that you answered my question. Are there any organized efforts among US government/people to help the hapless Sudanese? If so, let us know. Some of us out here may really want to help. Please help give us an honest chance to.
I appreciate your dilemma. And commend your willingness to walk where others fear to tread. But, honestly, were I married to you, I don’t know WHAT I would do. Sure I would want to applaud and support your bravery, artistry and industry. But I might just as soon chose to tightly close, lock & bolt shut all of my doors, wrap my arms tightly around you and my children and never leave home again.
You must be so happy.
You are lit afire with divine purpose. You path is so blissful righteous, so crystal clear that, in spite of all you have and may yet still endure, you ache with joy as you champion the cause of your troubled homeland. For you, unlike the vast majority of us, hath courageously answered the clarion call of freedom. And though you fear death, you know there can be not greater way for you to die than so your people can truly live.
But Sweet Kola, it is whom the martyr leaves behind who suffers most.
Because to Thomas you are just his beautiful wife and mother. You are hardly are a world-beater. You’re not Harriet Tubman bravely defy slavers or Sourjoner Truth boldly castigating lynching. Heck, how tuff can you be when you cower at the sight of an innocuous spiders. Can’t we at least take a moment’s respite from the enormity of Sudan? Why do you so reckless risk all that we have like this?
What will we do if something happens to you? What will become of my sons, both here and our blessing yet to come, if they have no mother? What if I can no longer partake of the "values" of dear Kola’s "Womb". I can’t bear to lose my "...loving, playful Goddess..."
PS: Have you ever tried a laxative? |
Snake Girl
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ABM...you would not think that I was angry if you heard me speaking.
I simply ANSWER people back, quite calmly actually--but without hearing; the translation sounds angry.
What it really is...is that most people have not really thought out their opinions or thought out their lives...so when they converse with someone who has, they think that person is edgy or acting superior.
I like you ABM. I am not yelling at you. I appreciate your opinion (as I appreciate everyone's)..but frankly, I am sometimes shocked at how little people THINK about what they say or claim to think.
So often, you can tell that their opinion is just a repeat that they stole from someone else they admire. People in America, in particular, do very little thinking. The media tells everyone what to think, what to wear, where to eat--who to love.
In this instance...I am NOT referring to you, my love. But I do grow tired of the stereotypes.
Kola
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Snake Girl
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How to Help Sudan:
http://www.missionsudan.com
http://www.iabolish.com
I am posting these, because someone asked.
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Snake Girl
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ABM, here's a hint--
"very tall women" are most fond of the males who NEVER mention their height or act as if they hadn't noticed it.
This is because females are often "penalized" for being taller than men. While men have sexual fantasies about tall women...they rarely marry a girl who is taller than they are.
One of the reasons that I love Thomas (He's 6'2 against my 6'3)...is that when we first met, he never mentioned my height or made it a "personality trait".
I am not an Amazon, fighting woman. I don't think you would recognize me in person, because you see me in the stereotypical fashion that men see women who are tall with dark skin. But I am more vulnerable and graceful and SOFT than your imagination is making me out to be.
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ABM
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Kola,
It's not by your height and presumed appearance that cause me to toss out the "strong, black women" quips. Rather, it's your persona, at least as best as 1 can assess on the web, that might make one think you are a scrapper. Don't get me wrong. I don't have a problem with women who will put up der dukes when the time/place requires. But you have frequently tussled with several folks on this board. I'm not saying the arguments were all your fault (So please don't hit me. K?). But I think you would agree that you can be a lightening rod of controversy.
Honestly, I don't want to over-emphasize your height. Just trying to find ways to "virtually" tickle your toes a bit. That's all. But I'll lay off the height quips (But I can still play with your boobies. Right? HEHEHE!!!).
Hey now, don't you think it to be a little risky to make sweeping generalizations about people "not really thought out their opinions or thought out their lives". With statements like those and jabs like "People in America, in particular, do very little thinking.", doesn't such condescension court for you unnecessary consternation. Because, although you maybe true, no decent, law-abiding, hardworking, tax-paying person want to continue here about how they are SOOOO jacked up.
Let me kick it real to you for a sec'.
I'll bet there are 100's of black folks out there who will read your comments and say, "You know, she's talented and seems to have something to say. But who the f@#$ does she think she is any? My ancestors were enslaved, beaten, raped, murdered here, not yours. It was my folks, not hers, who built this mofo country into something where someone like her can come here, have a decent, protected lifestyle. My folks bared the horror of slavery/racism, yet still managed to maintain a sense of human honor and dignity that grew so great that many of the very people who originally enslaved us eventually marched, fought and died to help set us free. I think because she was not borne/bread AA, she just can't fully appreciate the enormity of our struggles, the demons inside and out. Now she's going to come here, haughtily tell me where I am so wrong, so inadequate when it is my tax money and my very presence that is prevent murderous Muslims from her own birth country from getting a hold of her a$$. PUUULLLEESSEEE. Wake me up when it's over."
You know, I like you, like to talk and debate. So one of the reason why I try to tell jokes on this board is that, in addition to being an incorrigible smarta$$, I want people to enjoy what I say, even if they disagree with me. It's cool for us to differ. Cause as much as I want to pretend otherwise, I mostly know a little bit about a few things, and a whole lot about 1 or 2. So why should I sternly and humorlessly spew proclamation to-n-fro when it is quite likely that much, maybe most, of I might say might be effectively refuted. Then all I am left with a big spot of piss in my pants.
Kola, you may indeed our new conscience, and your time and purpose here is maybe grand. But my Sage Sister I just pray that the frequent tumult of your delivery does not cause those of us who really want to listen to you to lose sight of the merits of your message. |
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