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Robynmarie
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Username: Robynmarie
Post Number: 118
Registered: 04-2006
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Votes: 0 (Vote!) | | Posted on Thursday, August 17, 2006 - 12:49 pm: | 
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They are discussing this on another forum and most people seem to think it's okay to have sex after you break up with someone. My question is, what does breaking up really mean if you are still intimate with a person you once (presumably) cared about? |
Brownbeauty123
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Username: Brownbeauty123
Post Number: 825
Registered: 03-2006
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Votes: 0 (Vote!) | | Posted on Thursday, August 17, 2006 - 12:52 pm: |
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You can date other people without it being called "cheating". |
Robynmarie
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Post Number: 119
Registered: 04-2006
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Votes: 0 (Vote!) | | Posted on Thursday, August 17, 2006 - 01:00 pm: |
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BB123-
That's true. Also, sometimes it's hard to let go of good sex, even if the relationship made you miserable. |
Mzuri
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Username: Mzuri
Post Number: 1370
Registered: 01-2006
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Votes: 0 (Vote!) | | Posted on Thursday, August 17, 2006 - 01:13 pm: |
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No GirlFriend. If a man is so stupid as to mistreat me, why should I reward him with my good pussy? I say cut him off and let him languish. People that screw their exes are losers and if someone makes you miserable don't associate with them at all. PERIOD.
Where's your self-pride? Is there a man shortage or something that I'm unaware of? |
Brownbeauty123
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Post Number: 827
Registered: 03-2006
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Votes: 0 (Vote!) | | Posted on Thursday, August 17, 2006 - 01:26 pm: |
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Its more convenient. You're already comfortable with that person, & you know their history. Instead of having to go on a manhunt trying to find somebody you like and can trust, and thats not infected with STDs, most ppl just stick with what they already know.
There's a good male shortage out there, these men out here just lie so much I have a hard time trusting ppl. |
Robynmarie
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Username: Robynmarie
Post Number: 120
Registered: 04-2006
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Votes: 0 (Vote!) | | Posted on Thursday, August 17, 2006 - 01:36 pm: |
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Come on now Mzuri, tell us how you REALLY feel. LOL.
My issue is how to do you separate your negative feelings towards this person with your positive feelings about the sex?
Not a question of man shortage. More like having a spare tire, in case the new one gets a flat. (prolly not the best metaphor). |
Abm
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Username: Abm
Post Number: 6070
Registered: 04-2004
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Votes: 0 (Vote!) | | Posted on Thursday, August 17, 2006 - 01:37 pm: |
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Robynmarie,
Without a doubt, sex with an ex is one of the greatest schemes men have ever worked on chicks. I mean, to bone chick you no longer have to be accountable to.
And, dig it, convince her that SHE'S as down for no-strings sex as YOU are?
Hell. The shyt's almost as good to men as ESPN (...almost). |
Moonsigns
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Username: Moonsigns
Post Number: 1359
Registered: 07-2004
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Votes: 0 (Vote!) | | Posted on Thursday, August 17, 2006 - 01:41 pm: |
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Abm,
^^^^^ Interesting comments. But I find that the older women get, especially those that have been married or in long-term relationships, they benefit from "no strings sex" just as much as the men they're having sex with........because they don't want to be "bothered", either!
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Robynmarie
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Username: Robynmarie
Post Number: 122
Registered: 04-2006
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Votes: 0 (Vote!) | | Posted on Thursday, August 17, 2006 - 01:42 pm: |
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Abm-
Maybe it suits her agenda to have commitmentless sex? Women are capable of enjoying bootie calls too, no? |
Mzuri
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Username: Mzuri
Post Number: 1371
Registered: 01-2006
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Votes: 0 (Vote!) | | Posted on Thursday, August 17, 2006 - 01:42 pm: |
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Okay. But if you want to stick with what you already know, then don't break up. I've never had a man shortage my whole life. I guess it's a geographical thing. I've always been around the Army. Dad was in the Army, I was employed by the Army, and I reside near an Army base. The U.S. Army is overflowing with Black men. Soldiers - enlisted and officers - govt civilians and retirees. There's no man shortage here, I've always had them standing in a line. Always. |
Moonsigns
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Username: Moonsigns
Post Number: 1361
Registered: 07-2004
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Votes: 0 (Vote!) | | Posted on Thursday, August 17, 2006 - 01:46 pm: |
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Mzuri,
I agree with you that there is no man shortage, but military men tend to be quite dirty, especially if they travel abroad! |
Robynmarie
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Username: Robynmarie
Post Number: 123
Registered: 04-2006
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Votes: 0 (Vote!) | | Posted on Thursday, August 17, 2006 - 01:48 pm: |
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Moonsigns-
That's an odd generalization. My father was a military man who has been all over the world.
What do you mean dirty? |
Abm
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Username: Abm
Post Number: 6075
Registered: 04-2004
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Votes: 0 (Vote!) | | Posted on Thursday, August 17, 2006 - 01:50 pm: |
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Moonsigns,
Well let's hope more of them start using condoms. Because there's a huge increase of such women acquire HIV lately.
Robynmarie,
Some women can temporarily go the bootycall route. But most eventually feel used. Especially if they're continuing to sex some mofo whom they did or wanted to have so much more with. I mean, think about it: WHY would most women want to got from being a man's wife to his convenient living dildo?
Mzuri,
Thanks for making my point. Why on God's earth would most women WANT to continue to fuhk men they either don't want anymore, can't trust, cheated on them, etc.
Though from a man's perspective, I'd probably LOVE this. But I don't get why most women would. |
Abm
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Username: Abm
Post Number: 6076
Registered: 04-2004
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Votes: 0 (Vote!) | | Posted on Thursday, August 17, 2006 - 01:52 pm: |
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Robynmarie,
They tend to bone A LOT of foreign skanky poo.
Hey. Even nikkas in the military gottah get some.
*shrugs* |
Robynmarie
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Username: Robynmarie
Post Number: 124
Registered: 04-2006
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Votes: 0 (Vote!) | | Posted on Thursday, August 17, 2006 - 01:56 pm: |
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Abm-
you are assuming the dude was a mofo. He could be a perfectly nice guy, that may have "bored" a woman outside of the bed. I am coming to believe that SOME women are just as commitmentphobic as SOME men, though women would strongly deny it. |
Abm
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Username: Abm
Post Number: 6079
Registered: 04-2004
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Votes: 0 (Vote!) | | Posted on Thursday, August 17, 2006 - 02:03 pm: |
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Robynmarie,
There are all kinds of women. Including those who are commitmentphobic. But by/large, women are LESS afraid of the concept of commitment/marriage than men are.
Really. It's hardly even CLOSE. |
Kola_boof
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Username: Kola_boof
Post Number: 3023
Registered: 02-2005
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Votes: 0 (Vote!) | | Posted on Thursday, August 17, 2006 - 02:33 pm: |
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RobynMarie,
I sometimes sleep with my children's father.
We lived together, in what can only be described as a very loving "union" for 10 years.
We broke up, PRIMARILY, because he's a sexist who can't accept my career (To him, I "Naima", the wonderful cook, cleaner, mother of his sons and talking buddy whom he adores, interrupted by "Kola", the newly evolved womanist writer/activist and big mouth crusader that he finds too complicated)--but living apart for a little over 2 years now--we found that while people often don't know how to ACCEPT each other, deep down they really love each other.
Complicating Matters:
Because we have two young sons and are from traditional "Africoid cultures" (he's a Garifuna from Belize)----the boys are in the stage (older than 4) where the FATHER must mold and guide them more than the mother does (which lasts until around 16 when they become "men", once they prove it to Thomas).
This means that Thomas instructs and inventories them by telephone daily---but on the Weekends, he comes to the ranch to live and raise his sons. He takes them fishing, hunting and spends enormous time telling them folk tales, lessons, "men" songs, strategy.
The Problem Is:
Thomas and I get along really great, which makes it very hard for us to keep our hands off each other if we start laughing about something or if a "flicker" enters the eye. We always had an EXTREMELY passionate sex life, and we're vain, so we look good and get turned on by each other.
We both have other mates at this moment, so we won't be having sex----BUT----there have been times when we were just dating other people and we had sex.
A BIGGIE:
Also, for me, as an "infibulated" female (and because it takes American men a long time to LEARN how to penetrate, bang, NOT injure me)---it's just easier to sleep with a man who knows exactly how to DO ME without hurting or paralyzing me.
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Brownbeauty123
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Username: Brownbeauty123
Post Number: 829
Registered: 03-2006
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Votes: 0 (Vote!) | | Posted on Thursday, August 17, 2006 - 02:38 pm: |
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"Some women can temporarily go the bootycall route. But most eventually feel used. Especially if they're continuing to sex some mofo whom they did or wanted to have so much more with. I mean, think about it: WHY would most women want to got from being a man's wife to his convenient living dildo? "
She's a freak.
and
Because women can enjoy sex just as much as men do without the guilt trip.
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Robynmarie
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Username: Robynmarie
Post Number: 125
Registered: 04-2006
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Votes: 0 (Vote!) | | Posted on Thursday, August 17, 2006 - 02:45 pm: |
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Fascinating scenario, Kola. A couple of questions:
1)Now that you both are seeing other people, is there any sense of jealousy? Would you be okay meeting his lady friends?
2)Say, you called him and he "had a date" would he put the date on ice to tend to you or vice versa? (a matter not involving the boys)
3)Are your kids old enough to understand the situation between you and Thomas? Will you explain once they get to be "men"?
4)Have people told you (as they have told me) you "want your cake and eat it too?"
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Kola_boof
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Username: Kola_boof
Post Number: 3024
Registered: 02-2005
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Votes: 0 (Vote!) | | Posted on Thursday, August 17, 2006 - 02:45 pm: |
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MOONSIGNS:
Interesting comments. But I find that the older women get, especially those that have been married or in long-term relationships, they benefit from "no strings sex" just as much as the men they're having sex with........because they don't want to be "bothered", either!
KOLA:
Exactly. Though ABM has ignored me telling him that for years.
ABM:
Some women can temporarily go the bootycall route. But most eventually feel used. Especially if they're continuing to sex some mofo whom they did or wanted to have so much more with. I mean, think about it: WHY would most women want to got from being a man's wife to his convenient living dildo?
KOLA:
ABM, before I had kids and was single---I LOVED being a slut. In fact, I savor the memories.
(+) Living by myself with no one to answer to
(+) Fuck all the finest guys I wanted to
(+) Two at a time action for your birthday
(+) Young Thug boyfriend
(+) College stud boyfriend
(+) Married man to pay your bills and no strings.
Don't delude yourself.
There are women who can really TRAIN THEMSELVES to enjoy "USING" men (which is like SO easy)---and you won't be able to make them FEEL a thing emotionally.
And to be infibulated on top of it---where I can come back and convincingly PLAY the virgin, no matter how many men I fuck!!! (which is how I got Thomas).
I had it going on! 
The 20's was the fucking bomb--because I sowed my wild oats.
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Robynmarie
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Username: Robynmarie
Post Number: 126
Registered: 04-2006
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Votes: 0 (Vote!) | | Posted on Thursday, August 17, 2006 - 02:46 pm: |
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BB123
do you agree some women are as commitmentphobic as men? My take is that sometimes we women choose "unavailable" men because we ourselves are emotionally "unavailable" Or is it that deep? |
Abm
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Username: Abm
Post Number: 6080
Registered: 04-2004
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Votes: 0 (Vote!) | | Posted on Thursday, August 17, 2006 - 02:52 pm: |
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BB123: "Because women can enjoy sex just as much as men do without the guilt trip."
Some can. But not as many.
And certaintly not as OFTEN.
If I were single, and there were no repercussions (e.g., STD's, pregnancies, stalkers, etc.) I could fuhk every chick who frequents this cite and hardly think much about you when I'm done.
I don't say that to brag or to be mean. I'm just describing how it is to be a man. |
Abm
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Username: Abm
Post Number: 6081
Registered: 04-2004
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Votes: 0 (Vote!) | | Posted on Thursday, August 17, 2006 - 02:55 pm: |
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Kola,
I don't doubt that many women - particularly older ones - can screw without getting too sappy. But you'll never convince me that the average woman can be as emotionally disconnected from what's going on between her legs as your average man is. The differences in plumbing and circuitry makes such highly improbable. |
Kola_boof
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Username: Kola_boof
Post Number: 3025
Registered: 02-2005
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Votes: 0 (Vote!) | | Posted on Thursday, August 17, 2006 - 02:55 pm: |
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1)Now that you both are seeing other people, is there any sense of jealousy? Would you be okay meeting his lady friends?
Thomas's woman is 15 years younger than me---so yes, I'm VERY jealous.
She's also from Jamaica, which is more similar to his Garifuna culture.
He's also very jealous of my men---the difference is that Thomas will do something about it.
Just the mention of "ABM"--who is a phantom internet personality---will make Thomas drive all the way from Los Angeles, 60 miles to the ranch, to police me.
This is a man on the internet who could be Mr. McGoo in a nursing home---but Thomas feels extremely threatened.
2)Say, you called him and he "had a date" would he put the date on ice to tend to you or vice versa? (a matter not involving the boys)
Yes, definitely--though neither of us do that to each other.
3)Are your kids old enough to understand the situation between you and Thomas? Will you explain once they get to be "men"?
The boys are younger than 10. We try not to tell them anything other than we are separated (I don't allow the boys to be with Thomas and his girlfriend or to know about my boyfriends)---but the oldest one is very smart and observant and he reports to the younger one.
ALSO--my oldest son reports back to my Mother on the east coast, which I don't like.
I wrote a chapter in my autobiography called "I Never Married My Husband" which very openly reveals everything about my courtship, relationship and breakup with their father, including our sex lives---but they're not supposed to read my autobiography until they reach 18.
4)Have people told you (as they have told me) you "want your cake and eat it too?"
Sure.
But whether it's wrong or right---the FACT is---some people are able to have their cake and eat it, too.
And life is very short.
I've noticed that Thomas has NO PROBLEM being self--as I notice most men are that way.
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Kola_boof
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Username: Kola_boof
Post Number: 3026
Registered: 02-2005
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Votes: 0 (Vote!) | | Posted on Thursday, August 17, 2006 - 02:56 pm: |
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You, see, MOONSIGNS...
What did I tell you:
Kola,
I don't doubt that many women - particularly older ones - can screw without getting too sappy. But you'll never convince me that the average woman can be as emotionally disconnected from what's going on between her legs as your average man is. The differences in plumbing and circuitry makes such highly improbable.
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Abm
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Username: Abm
Post Number: 6082
Registered: 04-2004
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Votes: 0 (Vote!) | | Posted on Thursday, August 17, 2006 - 02:59 pm: |
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Kola: "Just the mention of "ABM"--who is a phantom internet personality---will make Thomas drive all the way from Los Angeles, 60 miles to the ranch, to police me...This is a man on the internet who could be Mr. McGoo in a nursing home---but Thomas feels extremely threatened."
That's 'cause Mr. McGoo hath crept down into your marrow. Hahahaha!!!
But, to be fair, Destined have very similar feelings about YOU. |
Brownbeauty123
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Username: Brownbeauty123
Post Number: 831
Registered: 03-2006
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Votes: 0 (Vote!) | | Posted on Thursday, August 17, 2006 - 03:04 pm: |
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"Some can. But not as many.
And certaintly not as OFTEN."
Things have changed since you were younger.
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Abm
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Username: Abm
Post Number: 6084
Registered: 04-2004
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Votes: 0 (Vote!) | | Posted on Thursday, August 17, 2006 - 03:07 pm: |
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BB123,
Babe. When it comes to the ways of human beings, the only things that's really new is the old truth that young foks just recently heard about. |
Kola_boof
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Username: Kola_boof
Post Number: 3027
Registered: 02-2005
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Votes: 0 (Vote!) | | Posted on Thursday, August 17, 2006 - 03:07 pm: |
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HA HA!!! ABM
Yeah. Back when you and I were "Very" close shit-talking buddies....Thomas was booking a flight to kill you many times.
He saw how my face lit up while RUSHING to finish those dishes or get his back rub over with so as to get back to ABM. LOL
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Abm
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Username: Abm
Post Number: 6085
Registered: 04-2004
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Votes: 0 (Vote!) | | Posted on Thursday, August 17, 2006 - 03:08 pm: |
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Kola,
When you were in your 20's, did you have LOTS of female friends who were dealing the cQQchie as skillfully as you were? |
Abm
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Username: Abm
Post Number: 6087
Registered: 04-2004
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Votes: 0 (Vote!) | | Posted on Thursday, August 17, 2006 - 03:15 pm: |
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Kola: "Yeah. Back when you and I were "Very" close shit-talking buddies....Thomas was booking a flight to kill you many times."
Why you think I've been so guarded by my identity all these years.
What? I need to get taken out by some dude who's woman I've never even laid wood to?
And, btw. Destined says as soon as you become really rich writing and producing soap operas, she's going to sue you for Alienation of Marital Affections.
Hahahahahaha!!! |
Kola_boof
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Username: Kola_boof
Post Number: 3029
Registered: 02-2005
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Votes: 0 (Vote!) | | Posted on Thursday, August 17, 2006 - 03:23 pm: |
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Kola,
When you were in your 20's, did you have LOTS of female friends who were dealing the cQQchie as skillfully as you were?
No, ABM.
Most black women are Christians, so they believe in "sins of the flesh" and stuff that didn't affect me.
They believe that MEN can do pretty much what they want----but they guard and policed themselves and other women to be "respectable".
I never really got CONNED by men like most women do.
I was out for mines.
BUT...that's only in America.
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Kola_boof
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Username: Kola_boof
Post Number: 3030
Registered: 02-2005
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Votes: 0 (Vote!) | | Posted on Thursday, August 17, 2006 - 03:29 pm: |
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ABM:
Snakeinmypants!!!
KOLA:
Now that's a sexy play on words, ABM
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Mzuri
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Username: Mzuri
Post Number: 1374
Registered: 01-2006
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Votes: 0 (Vote!) | | Posted on Thursday, August 17, 2006 - 04:00 pm: |
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Today's shot at Kola - Start laughing now.
Kola - You screw your ex because don't nobody else want you! Duh!!!
And speaking of SnakeInYoPants - is anyone going to see Snakes On A Plane??? |
Tall_brother
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Username: Tall_brother
Post Number: 14
Registered: 08-2006
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Votes: 2 (Vote!) | | Posted on Thursday, August 17, 2006 - 04:14 pm: |
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Abm wants her.
I bet whole lot men want her. Id hit it.
Nobody want you Mzuri. You just nag man.
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Kola_boof
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Username: Kola_boof
Post Number: 3032
Registered: 02-2005
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Votes: 0 (Vote!) | | Posted on Thursday, August 17, 2006 - 04:19 pm: |
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Thank you Tall Brother . She really
LIVES to annoy.
And now back to ROBYNMARIE's topic:
They are discussing this on another forum and most people seem to think it's okay to have sex after you break up with someone. My question is, what does breaking up really mean if you are still intimate with a person you once (presumably) cared about?
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Abm
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Post Number: 6094
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Votes: 0 (Vote!) | | Posted on Thursday, August 17, 2006 - 04:33 pm: |
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Mzuri,
Shyt seems so gotdayam corny I probably can't help but see it.
The question I can't wait to see answered is as follows: If you're on a plane crawling with snake, wouldn't you be landing that sucker within 5 mins of having seen the first one slither out?
Kola,
Your DC foks didn't try to strap you down with a Christianity chastity belt?
Also. Are there any Sudanese or other African women who are as sexually liberated as you once were?
Kola: "Now that's a sexy play on words, ABM"
Just giving praise where such is due, babe. Hahahaha!!!
Tall_brother,
Nikka. Don't hate. Congratulate. |
Kola_boof
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Username: Kola_boof
Post Number: 3035
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Votes: 0 (Vote!) | | Posted on Thursday, August 17, 2006 - 04:42 pm: |
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Kola,
Your DC foks didn't try to strap you down with a Christianity chastity belt?
Yeah, I was raised Christian. I was a SPOILED daddy's girl and hopeless romantic----but not being able to speak English and being ISOLATED from others, forced me to develop and become "scientific" about life very early on.
I got screwed over at 17 and I saw men for what they are.
By 20, I believed that only my father was a good man.
All others were scum or horses to ride.
I had to MATURE in my 30's to even want a man.
Also. Are there any Sudanese or other African women who are as sexually liberated as you once were?
Not that I know of, though I'm sure there must be.
I am a very special case, because so much of my BELIEF SYSTEM is the result of rebounding from mental illness.
I realize that the "RULES" are mostly bullshit to keep each type and group in its pocket.
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Abm
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Post Number: 6098
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Votes: 0 (Vote!) | | Posted on Thursday, August 17, 2006 - 04:48 pm: |
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Kola,
I agree to a large extent religion, morality, the "RULES" are often grossly unfair to women. But then I think about the kinds of things that have gone through my mind...as a man. One who's NOT an especially angry, hateful or violent man.
I think about some of the things I've done.
And then I think that perhaps women reap more of a benefit from many of the "RULES" than often seem apparent. |
Moonsigns
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Post Number: 1364
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Votes: 0 (Vote!) | | Posted on Thursday, August 17, 2006 - 04:59 pm: |
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Abm:
"But you'll never convince me that the average woman can be as emotionally disconnected from what's going on between her legs as the average man is."
Moonsigns:
I think you need to consider that the "average" woman, in this case, is usually a woman who has not been married and/or has not had children. Again, many women, especially older women can be just as disconnected --and younger women who have had children and especially those who have been married and "tended" to a man already --don't give a shyt about spending the rest of their lives consumed by the neediness of the average man. I know there are always exceptions, but I've found it's usually the "never-been-married" or childless women who are the ones who romanticize the meaning of sex in a relationship.
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Kola_boof
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Username: Kola_boof
Post Number: 3040
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Votes: 0 (Vote!) | | Posted on Thursday, August 17, 2006 - 05:03 pm: |
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Well, with anything, ABM---it's a double edged sword.
I love men to open doors for me.
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Kola_boof
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Post Number: 3041
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Votes: 0 (Vote!) | | Posted on Thursday, August 17, 2006 - 05:05 pm: |
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I agree with MOON on this 100%:
I think you need to consider that the "average" woman, in this case, is usually a woman who has not been married and/or has not had children. Again, many women, especially older women can be just as disconnected --and younger women who have had children and especially those who have been married and "tended" to a man already --don't give a shyt about spending the rest of their lives consumed by the neediness of the average man. I know there are always exceptions, but I've found it's usually the "never-been-married" or childless women who are the ones who romanticize the meaning of sex in a relationship.
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Tall_brother
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Votes: 0 (Vote!) | | Posted on Thursday, August 17, 2006 - 05:09 pm: |
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Say Abm. I wan be like Abm when I grow up
MAN!
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Mzuri
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Post Number: 1375
Registered: 01-2006
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Votes: 0 (Vote!) | | Posted on Thursday, August 17, 2006 - 05:13 pm: |
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ABM - They can't land because they are doing a cross-Atlantic.
WARNING: Don't watch these if you're squirmish.
http://digbig.com/4mdqr
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Tall_Bitch - Funny how you just popped in - you haven't posted since the last time I cussed you out. LOL!!!
Military men - Okay. They tend to seem like dogs because they travel more than the average person. But they are no more whorish than the general population. All that stuff about diseases - first off - they actually receive regular checkups and have access to health care more so than your average man who is likely to be uninsured and who probably hasn't been to the doctor since God knows when. Plus, if a soldier catches a venereal disease it's highly embarrassing for them since everyone in their company is going to know all about it. Especially their chain of command. And as far as having sex with the general population, no to that as well. They tend to have sex with what they have access to. That would be females in the military, women that are on the military installation and/or their wives/girlfriends. There's plenty enough women for them without them having to go out into the local community looking for strange, diseased pussy. And they're generally too frugal and practical to pay for pussy so that's not an issue either.
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Mzuri
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And I forgot, we're all comfortable having sex with someone that we're used to. That's human nature. I believe that Proverbs 26:11 would apply here.
http://bible.cc/proverbs/26-11.htm |
Abm
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Kola & Moonsigns,
Okay. Well. I guess the next things you're going to tell me is women like to have sex as much as men do.
This one we're probably going to table.
Because it seems that men and women greatly differ to the extent that men will more often DO what they want to do while, apparently, women will more often abstain from from doing what they're alleged to sincerely wanting to do.
Thus, it's really impossible to validly compare the primary inclinations of motivations of the sexes. |
Abm
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Mzuri,
I guess you got the rest of us told about military men.
Hahahaha!!! |
Kola_boof
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Mzuri said:
People that screw their exes are losers and if someone makes you miserable don't associate with them at all. PERIOD.
Where's your self-pride? Is there a man shortage or something that I'm unaware of?
Mzuri said a few moments later:
And I forgot, we're all comfortable having sex with someone that we're used to. That's human nature. I believe that Proverbs 26:11 would apply here.
http://bible.cc/proverbs/26-11.htm
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Mzuri
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ABM - One more great thing about Army guys is that they exercise and they don't get that fat nasty beer gut that most men get after a certain age. They are self-disciplined, respectful and they're usually educated and enlightened. I would choose a military man over an ordinary man any day. But that's just me. |
Brownbeauty123
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LOL |
Kola_boof
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ABM,
Now that I think about it....
...if we assume that most men are still WHORISH in their late 30's, early 40's
....then I have to say that you're right IN THAT, I don't desire the kind of sexual exploits I had as a younger woman.
Most of my girlfriends don't either.
I really am looking for an emotional connection now, and I move A LOT slower than I did in my 20's with regard to romance.
I have "fantasies" about doing an imaginary pool cleaner---but I have no desire to act them out.
Having babies changes a lot, too.
I do admit that since I've been "toned up" and "slimmed down"----I do feel sexier and more open to it. But not especially strongly.
But then again...I HAVE had a "boy toy", recently, and I do find myself being very realistic and at ease about sex and relationships. I feel that I am the one in control now.
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Moonsigns
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Kola,
Shyt --it's amazing --we agree! |
Moonsigns
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Abm:
"Kola & Moonsigns,
Okay. Well. I guess the next things you're going to tell me is women like to have sex as much as men do."
Moonsigns:
This is going to open a whole new 'can of worms', but that's nothing new. I'll venture to say that, women definitely like to have sex as much as men. However, I think there are differences that influence why we don't have AS MUCH sex as men.
Generally, women use more discretion when choosing a lover( and understandably so) --and when in a relationship, especially if there are children involved, women have responsibilities that, traditionally, men don't (especially if they also work outside the home, too!). Women also have greater concern for an unwanted pregnancy --because it's usually, again, her responsbility if it happens. We think, imo, more about STD's than men do --so that's a hinderance. And, I'm sure there are some more reasons I haven't included. So, it's not that women don't like to have sex as much as men do, we have more "things" that get in the way that our logic knows better than to allow sex-drive to control.
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Kola_boof
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Yep, MOONSIGNS.
And I agree 100% that women enjoy/desire sex just as much as men do.
I'm saying BIOLOGICALLY, since that's where ABM will claim it's not possible.
Because we do.
It's just that we use our HEADS (the one that men don't use)...a lot more, which makes it appear that we're not constantly ready to be boned.
But the truth is, "under the skin", we ARE constantly ready-----naturally.
Now...what SOCIETY and certain structures like RELIGION, etc. do to a woman's "natural" drive is a whole nother topic, because we all know that women are generally more REPRESSED by the rules than men are.
It's not until later in life that women really touch their privates and realize that they've been denying themselves for the sake of----"not thinking unclean thoughts".
That's all we have truth be told.
MEN create a society where THEY control a woman's sexuality and just like they created "shoes" for women to wear---they create designations of "virginity", "good woman", "submissive", "decent women don't like sex"----all that bullshit that's MAN-created.
But women want and like sex just as much as men.
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Abm
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Kola & Moonsigns,
You all give women too much credit. I mean, if I read what you're saying a certain way, I guess I'm to assume that women have some sort of super enhanced mind-over-matter abilities.
I'm sure you want sex. Sometimes A LOT. But sex is not the core, foundational motivation of women that it is for men. Even a novice examination of human history and culture would reveal that.
I thinks BECAUSE of the additional burdens that women carry, it's unlikely that you would want to have sex as much as your average man does. Because if you truly did, there would be a whole lot more boning going down. And you really wouldn't be making any excuses otherwise.
The primary, if not SOLE, reason why most healthy human males are not boning right now is because he can't get a chick to accomodate him.
There really is no other legitimate excuse for a man to not be getting p*$$y. |
Robynmarie
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I think for women it is more quality than quantity, Abm; to be wined and dined, flowers, candles, soft music, verbal and physical foreplay, and most of all security and familiarity. Men can screw strangers with no fanfare and go about their business. |
Abm
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Robynmarie,
If men required all that crap, the human species would have expired a century or so within the Bible's Book of Genesis, |
Grind
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ABM,
I've met only a handful of women who were truly like men in their orientation towards sex (i.e. they'd have sex with a halfway decent looking guy at the drop of a hat), and they all, to a woman, suffered from mental illness. |
Kola_boof
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And what a typically sexist remark, GRIND.
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Kola_boof
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You and ABM are so fucking LAME on this issue.
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Prettybabygirl
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Love what the ladies had to say, but I still co-sign Abm on this:
Kola & Moonsigns,
You all give women too much credit. I mean, if I read what you're saying a certain way, I guess I'm to assume that women have some sort of super enhanced mind-over-matter abilities.
I'm sure you want sex. Sometimes A LOT. But sex is not the core, foundational motivation of women that it is for men. Even a novice examination of human history and culture would reveal that.
I thinks BECAUSE of the additional burdens that women carry, it's unlikely that you would want to have sex as much as your average man does. Because if you truly did, there would be a whole lot more boning going down. And you really wouldn't be making any excuses otherwise.
The primary, if not SOLE, reason why most healthy human males are not boning right now is because he can't get a chick to accomodate him.
There really is no other legitimate excuse for a man to not be getting p*$$y.
This is just so true, Abm. If most women really had that drive that men do, they would not be able to suppress it. I agree.
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Abm
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Kola,
Boys & girls are DIFFERENT. And Viva La Differance.
Accept that...and move on.
PBG,
It's interesting how some women view sex drive to be some kind of equality issue or something. There are things that women are designed to do that my being a man am wholly INCAPABLE of even being aware of, much less actually DOING. |
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