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Abm
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Username: Abm
Post Number: 4865
Registered: 04-2004
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Votes: 0 (Vote!) | | Posted on Sunday, July 02, 2006 - 06:44 am: | 
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Questions:
@ Who should get custody of the children? The globetrotting/partying superstar rapper Busta Rhymes? Or Busta's lesbian ex?
@ Is it even necessary to ask whether Busta's wealth and fame won the day for him?
@ You think the fact that all the children are males factored into the judgement favoring Rhymes?
@ You think one of the kids walking in on his mom getting down with some other chick did her in?
@ Is this chick on some especially potent form of CRACK? Because she MUST be if she HONESTLY thought Busta would silently allow her to obtain/retain custody of his kids after she'd turned dyke and left him for a woman.
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http://www.nypost.com/news/regionalnews/busta_gives_me_a_bad_rap_cause_i_picked_ lesbian_love_over_him_regionalnews_hasani_gittens.htm
June 26, 2006 -- Hip-hop wild man Busta Rhymes had a 10-year roller-coaster romance with a high-school sweet heart. They had three beautiful children together. He repeatedly proposed marriage to her.
Then she turned gay.
The two have just ended one of the nastiest four-year custody battles in hip-hop history - rife with allegations she had lesbian sex in front of their children, that she does drugs in the house and that she's an absentee mom.
But Rhymes' ex-girlfriend Joanne Wood says she believes he doesn't hate her because she's a bad mother - he simply can't stand the fact that she's chosen a woman over him.
But Wood, 32, who lives in Baldwin, L.I., with a lover, says they weren't always at each other's throats. They once were sweethearts at Uniondale HS.
"I never really went on tours, I didn't go to the parties," the restaurant waitress said.
"It was just relationship stuff. He was traveling a lot. He wasn't home a lot. It just wasn't working. We were getting apart more, as opposed to being together more. So that was that.
"If he was [cheating], I didn't know about it," she said. "But I can't be naive to the fact that stuff was probably happening.
"Did I cheat on him? Hey. . . ." she said, grinning a little as she trailed off.
But to clarify, she added, "I wasn't cheating on him with a woman. If anyone wants to know. I wasn't at all."
"A relationship is a relationship. It happens. I have nothing negative to say as far as our relationship, whether it was good or bad, sexually, or not. That had nothing to do with me doing what I did [becoming a lesbian]. It's not like I spitefully did it.
Over the past four years, they have been in a bitter custody battle over their three sons, T'Ziah, 13, T'Khi, 6, and Trillian, 5.
"But my kids can read, they can see the negativity that he's saying about me. He needs to focus on his music and hope that his album goes double platinum or whatever, because you know at this point in his career if you don't make it now, that's it."
Rhymes won custody of the couple's children in December when Judge Burton Joseph in Nassau County Family Court decided he was a more fit parent than Wood. No abuse or negligence is cited, but there are more than a few references to her "lover" and "lifestyle," and she and her lawyer thinks she's been the victim of prejudice.
The court decision notes that on one occasion, one of the kids walked in on her and her female lover having sex in the bedroom, but she and her lawyer point out, "Where else should they have sex?"
"It seems that this judge was dwelling on the fact that it was a woman with a woman, and that's what came out of this, and it seems to be very unique," said her lawyer, Rick Savitt, who did not represent her in this latest Family Court case.
"If you find the mother's unfit, that's one thing, but they never found any of that. But to take the custody away, give it to the father and say, 'Dad, go move to L.A., Grandma, you take the kids.' The people I've spoken to say they've never seen that before."
Wood currently has visitation rights twice a week and every other weekend to see her kids, who now live with Rhymes' mother in New York while he tours.
She also believes Rhymes mother is bad-mouthing her to or in front of the children.
"I mean, my kids can repeat verbatim what she says about me, especially my oldest one - oh, I'm a gold digger, I'm money hungry, I'm a whore, I'm a lesbian bitch - you name it, she has called me everything." |
Mzuri
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Username: Mzuri
Post Number: 745
Registered: 01-2006
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Votes: 0 (Vote!) | | Posted on Sunday, July 02, 2006 - 11:27 am: |
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I can't judge ppl's lifestyles. But I feel that whatever you do, you should use good judgment and be discreet. If the woman was having an affair with whoever, if she was in a relationship with Busta, then she should have been discreet. I don't know what Busta's doing and I can't judge him based on his conduct in his videos since that's part of his business. If his babymomma didn't know that he was cheating, then he was being discreet and he wasn't disrespecting her. That's my opinion about cheating and having affairs.
I think that the judge put the children into a more stable environment - in the care of the paternal grandmother. There are other factors such as how the children are performing in school, etc., that he probably took into consideration that the public doesn't know about. The judge may have interviewed the children and taken their wishes into consideration. It's my understanding that you've got to be a really crummy mother to have custody of your children taken away by the court system.
Regardless of what happened and why, I think it's sad that people would have three children together, and spent all those years together, would let their relationship deteriorate to this point. Babymomma couldn't have been very smart. She should have hung on to that Busta money, AND her children. And she should have tried to keep Busta too, he couldn't have been that bad if she had three of his children. |
Va_sis
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Username: Va_sis
Post Number: 80
Registered: 02-2004
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Votes: 0 (Vote!) | | Posted on Sunday, July 02, 2006 - 12:03 pm: |
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"It's my understanding that you've got to be a really crummy mother to have custody of your children taken away by the court system."
Mzuri, it really depends on your jurisdiction. In my area, it is well known amongst the citizens that a particular judge who sits on the Juvenile & Domestic court bench was a "victim" of unfair practices during his divorce & custody hearings.
Now that he has power, it's quite evident that he has an axe to grind. All you have to do is be a father, have a steady job & an interest obtaining full custody of your children and VOILA, you got custody. Sad part is, A LOT of these men passing through his doors were only interested in avoiding child support payments.
Back to Busta....who cares? I've lost a lot of fan-boy respect for him after the bodyguard incident. |
Abm
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Username: Abm
Post Number: 4869
Registered: 04-2004
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Votes: 0 (Vote!) | | Posted on Monday, July 03, 2006 - 09:45 am: |
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Mzuri,
If I were a judge, especially one who's Black & male, I'd have a very difficult time giving primary custody of THREE Black boys to a woman who's chosen to live a lesbian lifestyle IF the boys father wants them and is capable of taking care of them.
I'll BET those BOYS didn't want to be around the lesbian lifestyle either.
And, yeah, I know that this is NOT a "Politically Correct" perspective. But, hey: Fuhk it!
Maybe chick thought she could "[hang] on to that Busta money" via gaining custody of his kids while still being able to eat some other chick's cQQchie. I'm sorry. But no nikka worth his nutsack is going to quietly allow THAT shy to go down! Especially not a superstar, millionaire rapper who's made his bones being (or at least pretending to be) in control of things.
Va_sis,
There has ALWAYS been great biases and stereotyping waged by Child Support judges. What's, perhaps, new is some mothers are being as unfairly harmed by such as fathers typically have been. |
Mzuri
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Username: Mzuri
Post Number: 749
Registered: 01-2006
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Votes: 0 (Vote!) | | Posted on Monday, July 03, 2006 - 11:34 am: |
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Mzuri, it really depends on your jurisdiction. In my area, it is well known amongst the citizens that a particular judge who sits on the Juvenile & Domestic court bench was a "victim" of unfair practices during his divorce & custody hearings.
Now that he has power, it's quite evident that he has an axe to grind. All you have to do is be a father, have a steady job & an interest obtaining full custody of your children and VOILA, you got custody. Sad part is, A LOT of these men passing through his doors were only interested in avoiding child support payments.
Okay. My post was referring to normal regular situations. I wasn't talking about shit that occurs in the Twilight Zone. If your community has such a judge, it is your (the citizens') responsibility to have him removed. Don't just gripe about it. |
Mzuri
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Username: Mzuri
Post Number: 750
Registered: 01-2006
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Votes: 0 (Vote!) | | Posted on Monday, July 03, 2006 - 11:42 am: |
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If I were a judge, especially one who's Black & male, I'd have a very difficult time giving primary custody of THREE Black boys to a woman who's chosen to live a lesbian lifestyle IF the boys father wants them and is capable of taking care of them.
And if I were the judge, I would have removed her children because she's just plain stupid. And obviously being a good parent was not a priority for her. But those are just my thoughts, since I am not the judge. |
Va_sis
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Username: Va_sis
Post Number: 81
Registered: 02-2004
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Votes: 0 (Vote!) | | Posted on Monday, July 03, 2006 - 01:52 pm: |
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"Va_sis,
There has ALWAYS been great biases and stereotyping waged by Child Support judges. What's, perhaps, new is some mothers are being as unfairly harmed by such as fathers typically have been."
EXACTLY...
...looks like the Twilight Zone's boundaries are a lot greater than Mzuri thinks. |
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